Couples Who Ask

I've been thinking a lot about the changes that happen in people, couples specifically, as they grow & change together over the years. I realized something the other day that I wanted to share. 

As I think about my lifetime and the way that I have changed over the years, the lessons I've learned, the experiences that I have had, the people that have impacted my thoughts I realize that I am DEF not on the same level or "plane" that I experienced in my younger years, or even a couple of years ago.

This lead me to think about my life with people close to me, my partners (or past partners), my family members or my best friends. And I really feel that as we grow, them and us, we do ascend to different levels of what we once were as individuals...and sometimes those changes happen together with people we love or those changes happen close behind one another and other times we drastically change to polar opposite levels that cause us to grow very far apart. It isn't wrong because we are all on our own journey of learning and experience for this lifetime that WE have chosen for ourselves and for our higher existence. But I think there is a simple solution to keep in mind...

Why can't we just ask one another for exactly what we need from one another as we ascend on our personal journey?? In complete honesty just ask one another to meet us where we are and how we "need" to be met every now and again so that we don't lose the loving connections as we change & grow. i.e. The way we need to be heard, our hobbies, our preferences, sexual needs, our expectations with one another NOW, our new goals or desires, our struggles, etc...I think this openness would nurture our relationships, esp if there was an agreement or intent set between people. An agreement to share & to be open to one anothers needs no matter how hard it was to hear or share over time. Why? Not for the purpose of changing one another or making one another feel that we've passed them by but as a means of closing the gap...even if just for a little while until the other has caught up to us a bit :) I think this is TRUE love & understanding of one another...

Love to All...xo